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a family picnic!

family, adventure, faithkelsey williams2 Comments
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In a sermon at church recently, our pastor was teaching us about the two Greek words for time - chronos and kairos. Chronos time is chronological time. Clock time. Time that can be measured. Things you put on your calendar.

Kairos, on the other hand, is time that can't be measured in hours, minutes or seconds. It's moments. You know, those perfect moments when time stands still: family gatherings, bonfires with friends that you don't ever want to end, newborn snuggles. Heaven on Earth.

Eric and I decided we wanted more kairos in our lives. Slower meals. Slower weekends. A slower pace. We haven't signed Rooney up for any extracurricular activities yet because we don't want to have scheduled things that take us away from, or prevent us from, experiencing these types of moments as a family (we are planning to sign her up for swimming lessons this winter or spring, though).

So last Sunday after church, we swung through Whole Foods, picked up a bunch of food and drinks, and headed to Gray's Lake for a picnic. Rooney had a blast going up and down the aisles picking what she wanted (macaroni & cheese, applesauce, and chocolate milk, of course). We drove to the park, spread out a blanket and ate lunch - with NEEDTOBREATHE's new album playing softly in the background - and then took a 2-mile stroll around the lake.

It was so relaxing to be in nature and exploring as a family. Rooney absolutely felt it in her soul that it was special and kept saying things like "This is a fun picnic! It's so nice outside! We've never done this as a family!" Finch would take a bite and then do a lap around the blanket (and scare us half to death by walking straight toward the lake).

We had no where else we needed to be. We could just relax and be, and see where the afternoon took us (as much as you can with a toddler who requires a mid-day nap).

It was really, really magical.

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Thank you to Whole Foods for providing the delicious food for our picnic. We love knowing the food we eat and feed our children have been held to a high standard so we don't have to look at the labels of each item we buy...which makes grocery shopping with kids so much simpler. I'm still dreaming about those dark chocolate sea salt caramels!

31 things I'm grateful for in August

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  1. Sweet corn
  2. Outdoor church
  3. Taking Rooney mini golfing for the first time
  4. Finding Dory movie
  5. Baking cookies as a family
  6. Finchy's top molars finally coming through
  7. Winning a pennant on Instagram
  8. Meeting my friend's 2-month-old baby boy, Rex
  9. When Finch hugs me and pats me on the back
  10. That I didn't have shingles
  11. When Eric gets home from work before me and the kids
  12. Running into the midwife who delivered Finch at the grocery store
  13. Getting Snapchats from my brother
  14. My grandparents' inspiring love
  15. That my mom is on Snapchat so I can send her little videos
  16. Both kids resting in their rooms at the same time
  17. Finding a nail salon that I love
  18. The Hills: That Was Then, This Is Now
  19. Food truck surprise at work!
  20. More Toy Blast levels
  21. Half baked cookies
  22. Frozen peas as an ice pack
  23. Nordstrom mothers' lounge 
  24. Random acts of kindness
  25. The rain letting up just in time
  26. A free zoo
  27. Our nearest park putting in swings
  28. Sneaking in to the kids' rooms at night and watching them sleep
  29. Finding my long-lost sock
  30. That Eric and I were both home during a major poop situation with Finch
  31. Iowa State Fair

do your kids stay in their bed?

parenting, Rooney, kidskelsey williams5 Comments
The first night Rooney slept in her big girl bed.

The first night Rooney slept in her big girl bed.

Ahh...bedtime. Anyone else dread it? We had a really rough time the past year and a half. A YEAR AND A HALF. 533 nights. Yes, I did the math. Ugh.

As soon as we switched Rooney to a toddler bed (she was 2 1/2 at the time), we struggled with her sleep (she was an awesome infant sleeper, so this was a huge change). And we have just been in survival mode ever since, especially since Finch was born. I think the loss of boundaries without the crib made her feel insecure. She would come out of her room several times after we put her to bed, so we tried putting a baby gate in her doorway, but she would just knock it over and come out. She lacked control to stay in bed, didn't know how to fall sleep without her pacifier and seemed scared...not to mention having a baby brother on the way. So Eric started laying in her bed with her til she fell asleep. On a good night this took 15 minutes, but if she had taken a nap it was closer to two hours! And she would come into our bed as soon as she woke up...which started out as 5:00 am (which was fine and even kind of cozy/fun), but slowly this moved back to as early as 10:30 pm! We did not sleep well with her in our bed, but we were doing whatever it took to keep things smooth and get as much sleep as possible. We had no idea when she would "outgrow" it...there didn't seem to be an end in sight.

It got so bad that she wouldn't want to do ANYTHING alone (go potty, etc.) during the day. I honestly considered locking her in her room at night and making her figure it out ... but luckily Eric was more empathetic than me. He re-listened to the book Boundaries and also met with a mentor who helped talk him through it. We started setting firmer boundaries overall...first we implemented a morning sticker chart where there are six things she has to do by herself before school. She LOVES it. I think she really likes seeing what is expected of her and then doing it, and getting to put a sticker on. In my mind, it shouldn't be hard for her to remember the few things she needs to do before school, but I wasn't thinking like a 4-year-old. It's like a little game for her. The best part is that I no longer have to ask her "Please go get dressed. Did you brush your hair? Did you brush your teeth?" every five minutes. We've been doing this for two months now and she still absolutely loves it!

Then Eric started sitting NEXT to her bed while she fell asleep, instead of IN her bed. And we talked a lot during the day about how she was going to sleep in her own bed by herself so mommy and daddy could spend time together, and we wouldn't be as tired and could do fun things with her in the evenings like go to the park. She had gotten really good at laying still and falling asleep when he was in her bed that it really wasn't a problem when he stopped. And in the middle of the night when she would come to our room, Eric would pick her up and take her back to her room. This caused tears for the first few nights, but he was really consistent with it. He would stay with her until she fell asleep again (which was usually instantaneous). So things were getting better...but now Eric was getting out of bed 3-4 times a night instead of just getting kicked in the crotch 3-4 times a night.

Finally we reached a breaking point. So we made another sticker chart, this time of her bedtime routine. Jammies, potty, brush teeth, lock doors, etc. (She likes to lock the doors with us at night and make sure she's safe, which seems crazy to me but I've heard of other kids doing this as well.) And I think she just really wanted to get the final sticker of staying in her bed til her clock turned green at 7:00 am, because it was like a light switch. She asked us to keep her door open and put a baby gate in the doorway so that she wouldn't come out. She cried when we left her room, so I told her I would come check on her in 15 minutes. She was still awake then, so I gave her another 30 minutes. She was still awake, so I told her I'd be back another hour after that. Finally at the hour check-in she was asleep! And stayed in her bed all night by herself! So of course we celebrated big the next day. (She wanted to go to the mall and get an emoji pillow. Ha!)

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So, for Roo, the golden ticket was a simple sticker chart. It's been over a month now and she's stayed in her room every single night and I haven't had to check in with her til she falls asleep after that first night. She has even gotten sick and had bad dreams since then and we go to her when she needs us, but overall we are getting so much more sleep. She starts her bedtime sticker chart at 7:00 pm and we are usually leaving her room at 7:30 pm after reading a book, 2 songs, 2 prayers, hugs & kisses. And it's not just Eric and I who have benefited - Rooney really has been getting better sleep and increased confidence, too!

As much as we've opened up about our bedtime situation, the more I've learned about how common bedtime issues are - stalling, coming out of their beds, parents sleeping with kids, siblings sharing rooms, etc. I know all kids respond to different things but I wanted to share this in case it helps even one other person! We originally downloaded this morning chart (PDF) from Heart & Habit blog. We modified it for Rooney, but it was by far the best one I've found online. You can download our modified version HERE. Our bedtime chart is hand-written, but you can also download it HERE.

basement bathroom mood board

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Remember our basement project we've been working on for three years? :-) The only room we haven't touched at all is the bathroom, but that's about to change. We are laying flooring next weekend, so I've been dreaming up the rest of the space. It will have a toilet, sink and - eventually - a tiled walk-in shower!

My vision for the room is black and white. I was even considering a black toilet at one point...but I think I've decided against it. Anyone have tips on choosing a toilet, shower head, faucet, hooks, mirror, lights? I have no idea where to start with those...

BASEMENT BATHROOM MOOD BOARD:

Subway tile (walls)

Subway tile (walls)

Pebble tile (shower floor)

Pebble tile (shower floor)

Toilet ($119)

Toilet ($119)

If you're interested, you can see more of our house projects here.